Today someone commented on my weight loss. I’ve lost 14 pounds since my grandmother died because I don’t eat as much. I no longer have the appetite I used to.

It’s funny. Before she died, I would have been elated to lose 14 pounds and even more elated when someone noticed.

But knowing the reason I’ve lost the weight, hearing this compliment today made me so sad. It reminded me that I’m going through something. That I will be going through something for a very long time.

If you notice someone has lost weight and she hasn’t mentioned to you that she’s trying to/on a diet/working out more/etc., please don’t comment on it. You may be reminding her of something terrible she’s going through.